July 24, 2018
Our “Friends” series continued Sunday with the emphasis on Marriage. And the two shall become one. The focus of the sermon was “Friendship in marriage unites us as one.” I have been married for 37 years and known my husband for a total of 39 years. The only way I could have stayed in this relationship is for the love and friendship we share. I am sure my husband wonders at times why God had to produce a woman as his helpmate, but at the end of the day, my husband would be the first to admit that he needs my help and I in turn need his help.
Do we always agree and like the same things? No! During the years, we have learned the art of compromise. While at times, I feel like I am doing all the compromising, I am sure there are times my husband feels the same way. Personally, I can attest it is the tough times and not the fun times that draw us closer. We are currently making the transition of becoming the parent of a parent. This has been a major paradigm shift. We work together as a team. I take care of the inside; he takes care of the outside. We make it work. Does this new shift cause additional stress and do we get short with each other? Yes, we do. But we look past the short term and look to the long term which is, “Did the parent’s need get met?”
Pastor Selena discussed five areas where marriages get in trouble. These areas are money, sex, power, faith, and family. Do these topics cause stress in a healthy marriage? You bet! But when your marriage is built on that special friendship- bone of my bone foundations, no problem should be so large that prayer and discussion cannot take care of. All of our lives are crazy busy and while we take time to talk with our friends and work colleagues, sometimes we forget to talk to our friend for life- our spouse. If the commitment is a true commitment, they already know our heart just like our Father in heaven does.
Pastor Selena’s sermon challenged me to make more time for just my husband and myself. Trust me; it doesn’t get any easier with age or retirement. I would challenge you to do the same thing. We take time for everyone except for ourselves. Alone time is great, but couple time is giving God a big thank you for creating helpmates.
Selena Freeman - July 22, 2018
No Longer Two, But One
From Series: "All Messages"
Payree considers herself a bit of a random person who is full of life experiences. She is a retired teacher who helped deliver a baby on her 50th birthday. She loves God, her family, friends, music, writing, and smiling.